14 Reasons Why Anxiety Sucks (And How To Fix Them)

14 Reasons Why Anxiety Sucks (And How To Fix Them)

It’s undeniable, anxiety sucks.

And if you’re struggling with anxiety, you’re not alone.

So what are the biggest problems with anxiety? And how can you fix them?

Well in this article, I’ll talk you through 14 reasons why anxiety sucks and how to fix each one.

Here goes…

Note: If you’re struggling with anxiety, it’s important to understand that there’s no ‘quick fix’. Managing anxiety requires patience – these are just some of the strategies that worked for me…

1. Anxiety Sucks Because You Don’t Know When It’ll Go Away

When you’re dealing with anxiety, there’s no start or endpoint. You don’t know how long it’ll take to recover from.

And you might even worry that you’ll never get better.

The problem is, everyone has to deal with anxiety in their own way. And it could take a couple of weeks, or it could take a few years.

So how do you fix this?

The key here is to be patient. You have to make small changes – and aim for tiny improvements every single day.

If you can aim for a 1% improvement in your mood every single day, you will see huge changes.

Now maybe your progress isn’t going to be linear, but if you make the right decisions each day then you’ll be on the right track.

This could include:

Going to the gym for a gentle, feel-good workout
Eating the right foods
Practicing good sleep hygiene (sleep has a huge effect on your mood)

2. Anxiety Sucks Because It Affects Your Career

Anxiety makes you feel tired.

It saps your energy.

And it stops you from being able to think clearly.Plus when you’re working, your stress levels can hit the roof. In fact, work is one of the biggest causes of anxiety.

This can create a bit of a conundrum:

You want to work and make money to support yourself, but you just don’t have the same energy, work ethic or mental clarity to continue working 8-12 hours a day.

So how are you supposed to manage anxiety whilst working?

Depending on how intense your anxiety is, you may have to take some time off work with stress leave.

The truth is, sometimes your mind needs a break-even if you don’t feel like it. If you’re feeling anxious and stressed about work, don’t see it as a sign of weakness.

It’s usually just a warning sign that you need to slow down and take a break.

And remember:

When you’re back in top form, you’ll have the power to improve and progress your career more than ever before.

This might even be the opportunity to move from a job/company that you find stressful, to one that you really love and enjoy.

Useful: Worried about feeling too anxious work? Check out my guide to stress leave.

3. Anxiety Sucks Because It Hurts Your Social Life

Anxiety makes you want to lock yourself in your room and hide away from the world, until you feel better again.

You might feel like you can’t handle talking to other people, or that you’re too distracted with your own anxiety to concentrate on what others have to say.

This is especially true for group situations because they can seem a little intimidating.

The problem is, this can make your anxiety worse.

It can make you feel isolated and alone.

So how do you fix it?

Just take it slow.

And make sure you don’t shy away from social situations.

When you connect with people you love, your brain releases oxytocin (happy hormones) that will make you feel good.

This doesn’t mean you need to spend hours socializing however – even half an hour or an hour is enough to feel good.

Pro Tip: When you do go out and socialize, I’d recommend avoiding alcohol because whilst this might relax you at first, alcohol tends to create more anxiety later on.

4. Anxiety Sucks Because It Makes You Feel Selfish

When you’re stuck with anxiety, it almost feels like you’re trapped in your own bubble.

You worry about when you’re anxiety will be cured.

You worry if things are going to get better.

You worry if your anxiety will get worse today.

And the problem is, it’s hard to care for those around you.

Maybe you have people relying you. Or commitments at work. Or maybe you have a family to take care of.

But with anxiety, it sucks that compassion out of you.

You become more reliant on others, rather than providing value yourself.

So what’s the solution?

I’d recommend practicing gratitude.

Ask yourself, who or what am I grateful for right now and why?

Yes, it might seem like the world is falling apart.

But if you can ask yourself this question in the morning or last thing at night, you’ll challenge yourself to think outside of your own bubble and more about the people you love.

Useful: Did you know studies have revealed that practicing gratitude can improve your physical and psychological health?

5. Anxiety Sucks Because It Can Push You Away From Those You Love

Some people who struggle with anxiety may struggle to give their partners the love and support they need.

You might also find that you have a low libido, which is commonly caused by high-stress levels.

How do you fix it?

Try your best to spend quality time with the people you love, even if they don’t understand how you’re feeling
Open up about how you’re feeling and the anxiety you’re struggling with
Understand that these people care about you – you might find managing relationships with anxiety challenging, but it’s only because they want the best for you
Try to avoid the ‘victim mentality‘ – everyone has problems and although anxiety is horrible, it’s important to be as positive as you can be around those you love

6. Anxiety Sucks Because It Can Create Chaos In Your Life

I remember when anxiety really took over my life.

It was pure chaos!

I can laugh now…

But looking back, anxiety had a huge impact on everything I did:

I had to take 6 months off work
I didn’t want to socialize with my friends
I lived with my family (I couldn’t really spend much time alone because of the anxiety)
I had to explain the situation to my girlfriend at the time
I couldn’t really function properly

The truth is, anxiety can uproot everything about your life.

So here’s what to do about it:

Be prepared for things to change
Hold on and be patient
Use anxiety as a learning experience – whilst it seems like chaos right now, anxiety can often help you make changes in your life that you’ve never even considered before

7. Anxiety Sucks Because It Creates A Cycle Of Negativity

When it comes to anxiety, we often feel like a weaker version of ourselves.

This can include problems such as:

Struggling to get through the day alone
Feeling tearful and sad
Relying on others for love and support
Struggling to spend time alone
Being unable to get organized in life – such as paying your bills, getting to appointments on time, and driving

But anxiety isn’t a sign of weakness:

Far from it in fact…

Most people with anxiety are actually very strong.

The average Joe would have stopped what they were doing a long time ago, before they began to feel anxious about it.

So for you to keep going is a sign of power.

Just understand that you will feel stronger and less vulnerable.

Take each day as it comes, keep making the right choices for your mental health and you’ll see a huge difference.

8. Anxiety Sucks Because It Affects You Physically

I remember there were days where I felt dizzy. Shakey. And physically weak.

Then there’s the fatigue and tiredness from anxiety – because your mind has such a strong connection with your body.

Anxiety sucks the life out of your vitality. And it’s going to hurt your body as well as your mind.

So what can you do?

Do some gentle exercise: Even if you hate the gym, just go out for a gentle stroll to get some fresh air and get your body moving
Eat healthier: Foods like refined sugar and junk food give you a boost of energy and then make you crash again. Aim for a healthier balance, to keep your body and mind stable
Avoid caffeine: Caffeine can make your heart race. So go easy on the coffee or cut it out completely to avoid getting the shakes
Sleep: Get a regular sleeping routine, avoid electronics before bed and aim for 6-8 hours of sleep per night. Sleep has a major impact on your health – affecting your mood, your energy levels, and your body’s recovery

9. Anxiety Sucks Because It’s Hard To Talk About

As much as your friends and family care about you, they may not totally understand what anxiety is or how bad it feels.

So it can be hard to discuss how you’re feeling with others.

However, you do need some form of release:

Try speaking to a counselor
Book an appointment with your GP
Speak to your friends about it – but only if you feel comfortable

If you’re really struggling to find someone to talk to about your anxiety, don’t bottle it all in.

Try keeping a mood diary, and writing down how you feel.

Sometimes writing down your thoughts and feelings will help you release the tension and stress you’re facing.

Plus it gives you a way to see how your mood differs day to day, so you can measure your progress.

10. Anxiety Sucks Because It Takes Us By Surprise

No one ever plans to get anxiety.

Anxiety sucks because it creeps up on you slowly.

It can often start off as a tiny bit of stress that compounds into something more troublesome.

So what can you do about it?

Watch out for warning signs that your mood is getting worse
Have a plan of action ready – what will you do if you feel anxious? What are some quick things you can do to make yourself feel good again?
This could be simple ways to relieve anxiety and boost your mood such as practicing mindfulness, relaxation techniques or calling a friend that enjoys speaking to

11. Anxiety Sucks Because You Have To Make Changes

I’ll be honest:

If you have anxiety, it’s a sign that you need to make some changes.

Here are a few of the lifestyle changes I made to alleviate anxiety:

Stopped drinking alcohol
Began going to the gym and exercising every day
Improved my sleeping patterns
Stopped spending so much time on my own
Avoided working excessive hours

These are all tiny changes – and they may seem challenging.

And yes, you may not want to stop drinking or reducing the number of hours you work.

However, you have to understand that if you don’t remove the triggers for anxiety from your life, your symptoms may get worse.

So look at what changes you need to make, and get after it!

12. Anxiety Sucks Because It’s Hard To Get The Help You Need

I remember requesting a doctor’s appointment for anxiety.

It felt like I was about to break down any minute, yet the doctor couldn’t see me for several days.

So getting the help you need in a timely manner isn’t always easy.

What can you do?

If you feel like you literally can’t wait to get medical advice, express the urgency to your GP’s practice and see if they can fit you in sooner
Seek private healthcare if you can afford it
Avoid self-medicating – even if you feel that’s the right thing to do, it’s probably not a wise idea in the long run
Speak to your family and see if they can help you
Call an anxiety helpline – they may be able to talk through your symptoms on the phone and give you some good advice (they’re used to speaking to people with anxiety)

13. Anxiety Sucks Because It’s A Daily Struggle

Yep, that’s right:

When you’re hit with anxiety, everyday can be tough in the beginning.

The mornings are long.

Afternoons drag on. And

in the evening, you dread what’s coming over the next day.

What can you do?

Take every day as it comes, one step at a time
Monitor your anxiety throughout the day with a mood diary
Try to keep yourself busy (if you feel up to it)
Avoid sitting around on your own at first

14. Anxiety Sucks Because It Comes In Waves

Here’s the weird thing with anxiety:

It comes in waves.

It’s unpredictable. It’s tiring. And sometimes it seems to escalate very quickly.

Unfortunately, you’re not always going to have complete control over how you feel.

But you can reduce the risk of your anxiety flaring up.

That’s why I’d recommend a mood diary because:

You can find the triggers for your anxiety by tracking your mood throughout the day
You can see at what times of day your anxiety is typically worse
You can see if you’re making progress
You can prepare for the time when your anxiety is worse